4 of the Most Overlooked Features on BDSM Websites

BDSM dating sites (also known as fetish dating sites) are a great way to meet lots of sexy and sexually-diverse people. However, so many members are missing out on some of the best features on offer through these sites. Yes, it’s perfectly fine to perform a basic search and chat to people who share your sexual interests, but there are other avenues to explore which can open up new and fantastic dating opportunities. So, with sexual explorations in mind, here are 5 of the most overlooked features on alternative dating websites…

1: Forums

Forums are probably the most under-used but important resource when it comes to meeting plenty of like-minded dates. They will allow you to join in conversations (or start your own chats) about a wide and wild range of topics. Whatever fantasy or fetish you have, you’ll probably find multiple people who want to talk about it in the forum pages of a fetish dating website. If not, you can just start the conversation and see who joins in. Forums also encourage you to talk to members who you might otherwise not know about, so they’re a really useful way of sharing information, tips and titillations. If you think you’d like to chat using forums, it’s worth checking out how many chats they have going on, and how regularly the members are posting. After all, there’s not much point in trying to talk on a forum if the other members ignore it, right?

2: Events calendars

A calendar might not sound interesting or exciting, but well maintained dating sites can offer a wealth of information for finding alternative adult dates offline. For example, you may find that there are alternative adult dating parties in your area, or that the site runs video chats on particular days, or live streams adult performances. Some of the best fetish dating sites also offer calendar and events deals, such as discounts to fetish parties and conferences, or even to local eateries. It’s definitely worth checking out what the events calendars have to offer, as you may discover lots of fetish daters in your area who want to meet up offline.

3: Notifications

Most people live busy lives, so we realize it can be hard to keep on top of your online dating. If you don’t log on regularly, you could miss new messages from members, or responses to your forum or blog posts, or you could even miss an offer for a date. Thankfully, a lot of dating websites offer notification systems, whereby they will send you a text or email to let you know when someone has been in touch. This can be vital, because if you don’t reply quickly enough then a member may decide just to move on and try someone else. Check the site’s notification features to find out what sorts of alerts they can offer.

4: New members / active members searches

You may have noticed that alternative adult dating sites will allow you to search for members with photos, or members who are local to you. This is brilliant because it means you can find people you’re attracted to who live nearby. However, a lot of users forget about some of the more “boring” search options, particularly when it comes to the New Members or Recently Active options. Choosing to search for new members means you’ll be able to say hello before anyone else, which improves your chances of making a good impression and potentially hooking-up. Meanwhile, choosing to search for members who were recently active, will eliminate profiles of members who don’t log on very often. This can really help to reduce the amount of time you spent plowing through profile pages, and help you to find members who are online a lot (and therefore more likely to see your messages to them). Check out the less familiar search options, because they can save you a lot of time and effort when it comes to approaching members for the first time.

The lowdown…

Sometimes the less familiar, or seemingly ‘boring’ features on a site can actually prove invaluable. What’s more, if other members aren’t aware of the uses of these features then you really get a leg-up when it comes to finding dates and chatting to them. Don’t be afraid to experiment with the features on offer, because those we’ve mentioned can greatly improve your dating scope when it comes to talking with members and encouraging them to message you back, as well as saving you a lot of time and effort in the long-run. Good luck!