5 Mistakes to Avoid on Fetish Dating Websites

So, you’re about to delve into the exciting world of adult dating websites? Whilst we’re sure you’ll have a great time and meet plenty of interesting, sexually experimental members, there are a few simple mistakes which we see members making over and over again. So, here’s our guide on mistakes to avoid when using fetish dating sites…

1: Rushing in

It can be very exciting to join a fetish dating site. Suddenly, you’re introduced to hundreds or even thousands of people who share your sexual interests, and you might want to hook up as soon as possible. Whilst this works for some members, we sometimes advise a little caution. Why not take a little time to explore the site and its members, to get a sense of what’s going on and how the site’s features can help you to communicate with others? Propositioning a member straight away might come across as too eager, and members might be put off talking to you again. It’s usually recommended that members get to know each other relatively well before engaging in any online or offline erotic activity, so it might be prudent to take things at a relatively slow pace until better understand the general protocol of a site and its members.

2: Incomplete or inaccurate profiles

Fetishes can be very particular to each person. Enjoying leather doesn’t mean you’re into bondage, for example. As such, it’s good to be as specific as possible when you create your profile. If you’re able to write about your turn-ons and fantasies, this is a good way to help express what you’re interested in, and who you’d like to meet. Making sure your profile is complete will also help you to attract people who share your interests and perspectives. Whilst you might be tempted to throw a bunch of fetishes into the mix, perhaps as a way of grabbing more attention from members, this might not be the best idea. After all, do you really want to attract someone who’s interested in something which you don’t really want to try? We recommend keeping your profiles as specific, accurate and inviting as possible to minimise the risk of attracting the wrong sort of attention.

3: Misjudged photos and videos

First impressions can be binding, and on adult dating sites a first impression can be set by your main profile photo. Pick a photo you’re happy with, which shows off your best traits and interests, because this is what everyone is going to see as they browse the site. Whilst explicit photos might work for some, this doesn’t mean that you have to follow suit if you don’t want to. If you’d like to upload more intimate media content, you might wish to explore the site’s private content options. Sometimes, for example, you can create a secret folder of photos and videos, which members can only see once they receive your permission.

4: The wrong membership package

New members often assume they’ll find a date or hook-up right away, so they pick the shortest package option possible. This can be a mistake, as many people are unlikely to want to hook-up before they know someone properly and have talked to them several times. Consider the full range of membership options available, and whether you want a one-off encounter, or to meet lots of different people over a longer time period. Paying for premium packages can sometimes come with invaluable benefits, such as extra features or profile highlights which will get you a lot more attention. Whilst it’s often a good idea to try out free trial periods to get a feel for a website, short term packages don’t necessarily work out cheaper, and you may be paying for a somewhat inferior service. It’s also worth remembering that “more expensive” doesn’t necessarily mean “better”. Packages will offer different benefits across different sites, so explore your options.

5: The wrong site

Finally, it’s good to remember that there are plenty of adult and fetish dating websites to choose from. If one isn’t working out for you, perhaps try another site. They will have different members, features and fetish focuses, as well as different means of communication. Some sites might attract more members from North America, whilst others tend to attract members from Europe. If you’re keen to chat using a webcam, look for a site which offers those sorts of services. The biggest sites aren’t always ideal for every person, so consider looking around at what else is available.

The lowdown…

Alternative adult dating sites offer such great variety in terms of membership options, the sorts of people they attract, their fetish specialisations and the communication tools available. New members can sometimes rush in without thinking about how they might be perceived in the long-term, or whether a site really offers the services they most require. Take your time to look around several adult dating sites and what they offer, and you can greatly improve your chances of success.