5 Secrets for Securing BDSM Adult Dates Offline

So, you’ve found a few sexy singles who might be interested in some offline action? Taking that plunge from online chats to offline dates (or even hook-ups) can seem a daunting prospect, but we’ve a few secrets to share which ought to help…

1: Be transparent

Trust is so important in dating, particularly when you’ve met online and are hoping to meet up in person. Being clear about what you want, before you decide to meet, is a good way to establish trust. It shows that everyone involved respects everyone else, as well as providing a set of ground rules and expectations. If you’re not into a certain fetish or activity, it’s probably a bad idea to pretend that you’re into it.

2: Be flexible

We don’t mean you have to be a contortionist (although that might help!). Rather, when chatting to potential dates, be open to new ideas and ways of thinking. If they suggest a particular meeting spot, consider it. If you have your heart set on meeting elsewhere, try to find a midway point which is beneficial to both of you. Of course, in any situation, your safety is most important, so don’t feel that you need to be flexible to the point of putting yourself in any danger.

3: Find common interests

This shouldn’t be too hard, given that fetish dating sites are all about finding sexual interests. However, this can also extend to your potential date idea or meet-up location. We think it’s important to talk to potential dates so you both feel comfortable with each other before deciding to meet up. And remember, there are other interests to explore which aren’t sexual, such as movies, food and other hobbies which might help to break the ice.

4: Stay safe

This is really of paramount importance when thinking about meeting up offline. Dating sites should offer advice on how to stay safe online and offline. You should always feel safe and comfortable when meeting dates, and this can be particularly important when it comes to fetish dating. Safe-word, anyone? Check the site’s advice on staying safe online and offline, as breaking their rules can also lead to expulsion without refund, and then your chances of finding a date are practically zero!

5: Group meet-ups

It can be a good idea to meet other members in groups. This is a low-risk, low-stress way of getting to meet lots of people who share your interests, without the pressure of a one-on-one date. Once you feel more ingrained in the culture and society of fetish dating, you might find that you get on with several members and can then continue to chat to them online or offline. Who knows where that might lead…?

The lowdown

Arranging an offline date can seem daunting, but there are plenty of ways to make them happen. Your safety is most important, so never feel pressured into something you don’t want to do. Being honest and meeting up in a mutually-acceptable area, maybe even with others who share your interests, is a good way to meet in the flesh for the first time. If everyone involved feels at ease, your date will surely be much more enjoyable.